Collaborative Marriage Planning is new to Pittsburgh offering couples help to build a healthy and happy future and lower their risk of divorce.
Couples plan extensively for their wedding day but typically give little thought to what will happen after the wedding and honeymoon are over.
Collaborative Marriage Planning helps couples discuss and plan regarding the most important issues that are rarely discussed by most couples before it is too late. We help couples apply the effective Collaborative Dispute Resolution process to develop a marriage plan and partnership agreement while building the skills for a healthier relationship whether this is your first marriage or your last.
The process uses a team of collaborative professionals – a lawyer for each party, a neutral facilitator/coach and a neutral financial professional in a process that is tailored to the couple in supporting and building healthy communication tools and conflict management skills through the development of a three to five-year marriage plan and partnership agreement.
Who Can Benefit?
Collaborative marriage planning services are available to any couple who is planning a wedding, planning to live together, or experiencing conflicts or concerns in a relationship including blended family issues. If these values are important to you, Collaborative Practice is likely a good option for you:
- I want to plan for a healthy marriage, not just focus on my wedding day.
- I want to learn communication skills that will make our marriage strong.
- I want us to maintain a tone of respect and dignity even when we disagree.
- I want to work constructively to meet the needs of each of us and our current or future children.
- I believe that both love and healthy relationship skills are required to build a strong and long-lasting marriage.
- I believe that working creatively and cooperatively solves issues.
- I want a plan for how we will work together and communicate about issues related to home, lifestyle, children, finance, health, hobbies, work, play/recreation, love and sex.
- I want to plan for our emotional and financial future.
The Collaborative Coach
The Collaborative Coach is a skilled practitioner and licensed mental health professional with training in the interdisciplinary collaborative practice model whose role is to facilitate effective communication and interactions.
The collaborative coach is knowledgeable about the specific dynamics and issues related to marriage. In this role, coaches are not acting as therapists, but are using their training and skills to help clients work through their emotions about planning for a marriage, not just the wedding day, and focus on identifying long-term needs and interests for their future together. Coaches help clients participate meaningfully in the collaborative process.
In Collaborative Marriage Planning the neutral coach works with the couple and the other collaborative professionals to facilitate discussions to plan for a healthy emotional, financial and legal future as a married couple. If children are involved, the coaching also focuses on helping the soon to be blended family plan for healthy relationships.
Emotions, communication and discussions regarding children and parenting, budgeting and other financial concerns are an essential part of planning for a healthy marriage. The Collaborative Coach helps couples identify and discuss feelings and issues about the relationship and marriage, think through emotionally charged issues, and communicate about needs, fears and concerns. The coach teaches communication skills that are helpful for the long-term success of the marriage and as potential parents together.
The Collaborative Team
The coach works with the other members of the professional team, including the Collaborative Attorneys and Collaborative Financial Neutral, to support the couple in all areas of planning for a successful marriage – building on the foundation of love and adding skills, tools and professional support.
Each collaborative professional brings their specific training and skill set to the table. Collaboratively trained mental health professionals, attorneys and financial professionals each have specialized abilities for supporting and encouraging a truly lasting relationship that best meets the needs and interests of a new family.
Call 724-759-7514 today to schedule a FREE 30 minute consultation to find out if the Collaborative Marriage Planning Process is right for you.
We believe that every marriage deserves a plan.
Loretta “Lori” Gephart, M.A., Licensed Psychologist, is a Collaborative Coach and a member of the Collaborative Law Association of Southwestern Pennsylvania, where she is the past president and a trainer for Collaborative Basic Training. She is also a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals where she serves on the Board. She is a founding member of Gateway to Collaboration, a nonprofit corporation dedicated to educating others about the Collaborative Divorce Process and a founding member of Collaborative Solutions North, an association of like-minded professionals who are committed to assisting individuals in working through their differences collaboratively without going to court.
Lori is ready to help you to develop healthier, stronger relationships. Appointments are available in our Wexford and Pittsburgh offices.